What does this all mean?
We start to wonder if we actually really love our second love because they’re so different from the love we’re used to. They won’t say your name the same way, hold you the same or quite literally, do anything the same ways in which you’ve become accustomed to when falling for someone. You’ll feel a bit sad, but this is good.
Let me be blunt: The first time you fall in love is an insane and unheard of magical life that you’ll never ever be able to reclaim. And though you may not see that as a blessing, it is. That’s not real life.
To look at someone and see no imperfections, and to always feel as though you’re living in fantasy is neither normal nor healthy. And that’s why your second love may feel more like a soap opera than a fairytale.
Since everything seemed so perfect in my first relationship, I expected that same “sweep-me-off-my-feet” feeling the second time I fell in love. I was confused and concerned that it never came. Then I realized it never will. But this doesn’t make your second love any less powerful.